The method of
finding your "Soulmate" that follows is tried
and true. It has resulted in many marriages and
life committments since it was given to me through
meditation, including my own. I developed this
system over a four year period and, through it,
found the love of my life. We are now heading
toward the sixteenth year of our honeymoon. The
steps outlined here are a result of a series of
psychic visions, practical experience and meditations.
As you follow them, remember the old adage..."Be
Careful What You Ask For, You Just Might Get It!"
The road to finding my
soulmate was a long one but the destination was
well worth the journey. Read the following words
and take them to heart and I know that the destination
YOU arrive at will bring you as much joy as finding
my soulmate has brought me.
Many people muddle through their entire
lives searching for Mr. or Miss Right. We join
dating clubs, we search the want ads we go to
noisy smokey night spots hoping that we will find
that perfect someone lurking in the shadows or
waiting right around the corner...unfortunately,
many times they are out looking for us somewhere
else, like the old joke..."My ship finally came
in and I was at the train station" Up to this
point, my psychic abilities had not helped (mostly
because I had not applied them to my OWN life).
After forty-six years of searching, near missus
(this is a bad pun not a misspelling) and several
outright disasters, I finally hit upon the ideal
method of locating my ideal mate. I worked for
four years dissecting my dating patterns and the
way I searched in an effort to find out what went
wrong before hitting upon the right combination.
The answer was far more simple than I would have ever imagined. You have to know who and
what your soulmate is before you ask the universe to send them to you. Imagine that you
are searching for a car. Would you go onto a car lot and tell the sales person, "give me
something with wheels." No, you would be more successfull if you knew the specifics of
what type vehicle would suit you best. Why would you be less diligent in choosing
something far more important such as a life mate?
So, to that end, you must make a list, a very specific list. Please bear in mind here that
I am not talking about just the sort of thing you would put in a singles advertisement. I
am talking about a list that removes every person but one, THE ONE. It is okay to include,
"Likes long walks on the beach and cats" but you will need much, much more.
Let's begin by first creating a list of everyone you have ever dated or even been
attracted to. Under each of their names you will create two separate sections. One section
will describe what you found attractive in that person, everything that made you think
that they were special and meant for you. The second section will list everything that you
did NOT like about them, everything that made you realize that they were not THE ONE. Go
into great detail in both these lists, everything from hair color to eye color, the way
they spoke, the way they dressed and so on. You get the point. The more specific you are
the better the final result will be.
Special Note: The lists can and should include even others you have just seen or noticed,
movie stars, someone who works with you, even someone you pass on the street that attracts
or repels you. The more the merrier.
Once these lists are complete you can then begin using them as the source for your master
list. Concerning physical appearance, look over your other lists and find the things that
strike you the most strongly. If most of the people that interested you have brown hair,
put that down. If most have blue eyes, put THAT down and so on. You should include height,
weight and other very specific details. Pretend you are describing your ideal mate to a
sight impaired friend. At the end of this list, not only will YOU be able to recognize
them but anyone else who has read your list will too.
After you have completed the "physical" description you get into the tricky part, the
things that make up the personality of your ideal mate. The same rules apply here as in
the physical category...the more specific, the better. Bear in mind that the person should
not necessarily be a mirror of you. If you love cats, for example, it is not necessary
that THEY love cats as much as you, only that they will happily tolerate cats in the home.
If they are exactly like you then you have removed the possibility of growth in the
relationship. The things that you can teach each other make the relationship a real joy.
Okay, now we get to the tricky part...In making your lists, physical or personality, you
cannot use the words NO or NOT. The universe doesn't seem to hear them. Therefore,
everything is listed as a positive. For example: You would not say, "My ideal mate is not
an alcoholic" you would be better served using something like I did like..."My ideal mate
is free from addictions to drugs, alcohol and other substances and behaviors." I realize
that covers a lot of territory but trust me, you will be glad you put this one in.
Another example might be...instead of saying "My ideal mate is not bald" you would say,
"my ideal mate has a full head of hair". I realize this is tricky phrasing but it is worth
the effort, I promise.
Work on this list long enough so you KNOW them. When I was making my list someone told me
that my list was too specific. They said to me, "You are eliminating EVERYONE!". I looked
back at my list and replied, "No, I am eliminating everyone but ONE and one is all I need
or want."
If your soulmate list is shorter than the best part of two type written pages then you
have not put enough effort and thought into it. Go back and get specific!" I suggest that
you work on the list for a while, put it away for a week or two, and then haul it out and
look it over with a fresh eye. When you can look at it and KNOW this is your always mate
then it is complete.
Special Note: Make sure you include availability. I.E. "My ideal mate is in a perfect
place in their life to accept me as their life mate. All other past relationships in their
life are through and completed." Let's face it, how many relationships do YOU know that,
on the face if it, would have been perfect but that one or the other of the two were not
totally over a past relationship. The walking wounded make lousy mates. You don't want
someone who needs fixing. You want someone who is ready willing and able to be with YOU
and ONLY YOU.
So, what do you do when the list IS complete? Not much really. You simple acknowledge to
your self and the universe that THIS is your mate and ask the universe to send them to
you. If you like rituals (and I am one of these), make a copy of your list then take the
copy to a safe place and burn it, adding in a prayer that this person be sent to you in
the here and now. Then you simply wait (usually not very long but be a bit patient). Here
is the neat part, They will come to YOU!
Allow me to give as an example how it worked in my own case. Even though I did not think
that I had any real preference for hair and eye color, I put down red hair and green eyes.
I finished my list and put it out to the universe. In about two weeks I recieved a call
from a lady I had apparently read at one time. I did not remember her or what she looked
like since I read many, many people (and my memory for what people look like is pretty
sucky anyhow...and remember I was once a newspaper reporter).
Anyhow, this lady asked me If she could ask me a couple personal questions. I told her
sure, why not. She asked me if I was married. I told her no. She asked, "Are you dating
anyone at this time?" Again the answer was no (I didn't mention at that time that I had
not dated in four years by my own choice). She then proceeded to ask me to dinner. To this
day I am not sure why I broke that four year "dating fast" and agreed to go out with
someone I did not know but I did. We agreed to meet at a psychic festival that weekend. I
asked her how I would know her and she replied, "Don't worry, I will know you."
With all this in mind I headed out to the show, all the time wondering why I had agreed to
a date with a complete stranger. During the show a georgeous redhed walked into the show
and sat down with another reader and friend of mine. My first thought was, "How do I ditch
my blind date and ask THIS woman out?" Because I knew that she was THE ONE. As you have
probably already guessed, she WAS my date.
A little more irony...not only was she my date but earlier, I had told the friend she sat
down with that I had "broken my fast" and agreed to a blind date. It turns out that he
also knew the redhead and knew that she was coming to the show to meet someone but he
never drew the connection. So, after I determined that they were just talking and not
doing a reading (after you have done it a while you get to know the difference), I started
making up reasons to saunter by and nod to my friend and then get him to introduce me to
HIS friend the redhead.
After a bit, my friend did have a client come up so the readhead (thank you spirit) told
him that she would just come talk with me while he did his reading. Happy as a clam over
the turn of events, we chatted for a few minutes until she told me, "let me do a reading
for YOU." Well this does happen on occasion so I agreed. She took my hand and told me,
"You have a date tonight with a drop-dead gorgeous redhead!" Well, after getting over my
stunned shock, I figured out that she was indeed my date for the evening.
Long story short, I told her I loved her on our second date and by the end of the date we
were talking marriage (the long story is even more halarious ask me about it sometime). We
were indeed married three months after that and that was, as I said, sixteen wonderful
years ago. Special note: I told her later that I had "created her" and showed her my list.
She laughed and told me that SHE had created ME, reached in her purse and pulled out HER
list which described me to a tee.
Since that time, I have given this advice
to many, many people and it has resulted in dozens
of marriages or life committments with those who
followed the advice. So, good luck in your own search.
I hope this advice comes in handy and that you find
your soulmate as I have. If you need further advice
feel free to conact me and we will set up a reading
Ron Orion Scarbrough
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